"Not Everyone Wants to Sleep With You"

This is a real experience that happened to me this past weekend. I went to The Chug on Friday night with my best friend Sara and my boyfriend and all of our mutual friends. Sara and I were across the bar from my boyfriend and his friends and we were talking to our other guy friends, having a great conversation. All of a sudden, a guy came up to our group, and said, "Excuse me guys, I have a friend who just got back from the Army and he's been pretty lonely, so I was wondering if you or anyone you know would be interested in just having a one-night stand with him." This guy was totally confident in his delivery, with no doubt that this type of aggressiveness might work for him. After my initial shock, I asked him, "What makes you think that this is completely okay to ask?" "Is it because my friend Sara has a larger than average chest size and because she likes to wear tight clothes?" "Or is it because we were having a conversation with other men?" After I let him stammer over his words for a couple seconds I had some choice words with him that I'm not going to mention in this blog post and I left him by saying, "That's probably the most degrading thing you can say to anyone, and you're going to get your ass handed to you if you keep acting this way."

After I had a couple days to reflect on what had happened to my friend Sara and I, I just couldn't help but think about how different Sara and I are in our appearances. When this guy came up to us, he had his eyes on Sara the whole time. She is a thin, blonde, busty young woman. She does wear tighter clothing and wears a lot more makeup than I do. I was wearing a loose-fitting floral dress, my combat  boots, a jean jacket and minimal makeup.  I don't want to assume every male on campus is the same in the sense that they want a more "barbie" pretty type of girl, but with this particular person you could tell he was focused on her. Is it because that is the typical perception that media has displayed to us that is sexy? Or easy?

I think our generation has a little farther to go when it comes to feminism, or just treating everyone as equals in general. Little did this guy know that Sara and I are both strong-will, positive feminists. We were both upset after this happen to us, but we realized that he is just uneducated and misinformed, and my hope for him and his friends is that they learn how to better handle themselves.